Over the last year or so, I’ve seen a lot of bloggers talk about why saying no is important. It’s so easy to get caught up in saying yes to any and every opportunity that comes your way regardless of whether or not it makes sense for you, especially in the world of blogging. So for the most part, I agree. Those points are completely valid, for people who actually say yes to things.
I, on the other hand, am all too happy to say no any and everything. It’s like my superpower, albeit one that doesn’t do me much good. But, I’ll talk about it anyway, out loud.
I’ve become so used to saying no that everyone expects it of me now. It’s basically my default setting and my friends are all used to this crazy quirk of mine. For a while, it was even a running joke among us but now it’s just sad.
At first, I thought it was just how I am. I’m an introvert and interacting with new people in new situations is one of the most draining and mentally exhausting things I’ve ever done. But over the last year or so, as I’ve become more reclusive and unwilling to experience new things, I’ve had to acknowledge that it goes way deeper than that. Honestly, I probably need some sort of therapy. But let’s not make this post that much of a downer.
For now, I’ve decided to try saying yes to new things more often. Whether it’s something big like taking a trip out of town or something small like hanging out with friends of friends. Obviously, this isn’t going to be easy. I can’t turn years of noes into yeses just like that. It’s going to take some work.
I guarantee there’ll be days where saying yes feels impossible. But hopefully, instead of slipping up and reverting to saying no, I’ll remember why I wanted to start on this say yes journey in the first place.
3 Reasons to Say Yes to Things that Scare You
1. You learn new things about yourself
I’ve always had a very firm grasp of who I am and what I like. I’m so set in my ways that I actually avoid entire genres of movies and TV shows – usually comedies – because I’m positive I’ll hate them. Isn’t that crazy?
But twice over the last month I ended up watching shows I previously avoided like the plague and I absolutely loved them. I’m looking at you, Grace & Frankie.
So I’ve learned my lesson. The next time someone recommends a TV show, movie or other new (legal) activity to me, I plan to give it a fighting chance before writing it off.
2. You actually live your life
I moved to Canada almost 6 years now and I haven’t been to most of the major tourist attractions. That’s right I’ve never set food in the CN Tower, the aquarium, Wonderland or the Toronto Islands. Heck, I only made it to Niagara Falls because my father dragged me there a couple years ago when he came to visit. And I’ve never been further from Waterloo than Toronto.
That’s insane, right? What have I even been doing for the last 6 years? I did basically the same things day in day out without even consciously realising it. And that definitely isn’t living, just existing.
3. You overcome your fears
When I was younger I’d be open to pretty much everything unless there were snakes involved. This post was actually entitled ‘why you should say yes more’ because I couldn’t fathom the fact that I have fears.
But the more I wrote the clearer it became that I say no so often because I’m afraid of basically everything. Somewhere between leaving secondary school and graduating from university, I created an ever-shrinking comfort zone that I’m deathly afraid of leaving. And that has to stop.
What about you?
- What’s the last ‘scary’ thing you said yes to?
- Why else should we say yes to things that scare us?