I’ve been going through something of a quarter life crisis ever since I graduated from university last year and I finally wanted to chat about it a little today, out loud.
I studied Statistics and Computer Science but I’ve never been particularly passionate about either of those subjects. So I was super hesitant to actually get a job in my field only to get stuck in the rat race and end up hating my life.
Long story short, I haven’t had a full time job in the last year and a bit while I try to figure out what I want to do with my life.
Actually, I know exactly what I want to do but that makes me super picky when applying to jobs which in turn makes it harder to actually get a job. I know it’s a pretty unpopular mindset to have right out of university but mental well-being is pretty high on my list of things that make me successful. And working a job I hated would completely crush my spirit.
Been there. Done that. Burned the t-shirt. Never going back.
At first, I carried a lot of guilt and found myself constantly explaining my decision in an almost apologetic way to people who were completely unaffected. But eventually I got over it because this is what’s best for me. And now I own my choices.
But, the ironic thing is that while I’m okay with essentially quitting my field to find something that serves me, I struggle with doing it in other areas of my life.
I can’t always let go when things stop working
Take my fitness, for example. I’ve been going to GoodLife Fitness for about 4 years now and I absolutely love it. I started off with group fitness classes then transitioned to lifting as I found my groove and got more serious about working out. And I stuck with lifting consistently for almost 3 years.
Even when it started to feel like a chore and I didn’t enjoy it at all anymore.
I have spent the last year or so trying to find ways to force myself to love something I’d grown to hate. Partly because I felt like I’d invested too much time into it to quit now. And partly because I used to identify so much with being a ‘lifter’ that switching to a more relaxed approach to fitness made me feel like I’d somehow failed.
But you know what?
I’m finally ready to officially say ‘eff it’ when it comes to lifting.
It served me for a long time but it doesn’t anymore and I need to accept that. So what if I want to do more step classes? Or try a spin class for the first time in years? Or do all the yoga?
Maybe I’ll even try jogging again one of these days just to really spice things up. And if I ever want to lift again, I’ll lift or just do a BodyPump class.
Yeah, my muscles may not be as visible and I might be as ‘strong’ as I used to. But the world will keep turning.
And I’ll be happy AF while it does.
Because it’s okay to quit
Contrary to popular belief, quitting isn’t actually the end of the world. It takes a crap tonne of courage and self-awareness to sit up and say ‘hey, maybe this isn’t working for me’. And then do something about it.
So forget what other people might think or the unrealistic or outdated expectations you have of yourself. If something isn’t serving you, even after you’ve tried your best to make it work, then give it up already and go find something that will.
Because life is way too freakin’ short to spend it doing things that you hate.
What about you?
What are you holding on to for all the wrong reasons?
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This post was written as part of the GoodLife Fitness Blogger Ambassador Program; however all opinions expressed are my own.